THE ARE RITUAL
Before you ever pick up the phone or walk into a meeting, you need to be ready. ARE is your pre-call ritual that ensures you show up at your best, in the right mental state, and fully prepared to understand your prospect's world.
APPEARANCE
How you present yourself matters — not just physically, but environmentally and energetically. Before every call, check all three dimensions.
PHYSICAL
- Dress appropriately for your prospect's industry
- Match or slightly exceed their expected dress level
- Ensure grooming is professional and camera-ready
- Check your appearance before every call, not just the first one
ENVIRONMENT
- Clean, uncluttered background for video calls
- Good lighting — face the light source
- Eliminate distractions — close unnecessary tabs
- Have all materials ready: notes, CRM, documents
ENERGY
- Stand up or sit with good posture before dialing
- Take three deep breaths to center yourself
- Smile — it comes through in your voice
- Decide how you want to feel: confident, curious, helpful
RESOURCE STATE
The most useful first step a salesperson can take is to move into a resource state. This technique lets you access your peak performance mindset on demand.
THE FOUR-STEP ANCHORING PROCESS
RECALL A PEAK MOMENT
Think of a time when you did something extraordinarily well. A call that went perfectly, a deal you closed against the odds, a presentation where you were completely in flow.
ENGAGE ALL THREE SENSES
Ask yourself: What did I see? What did I hear? What did I feel? Make the memory vivid and present. The more sensory detail, the stronger the anchor.
ANCHOR AT PEAK INTENSITY
When the memory reaches its most intense point — when you're really feeling that success — touch the back of one hand with a finger of the other hand. This creates a physical trigger.
TEST YOUR ANCHOR
Fire your anchor by repeating the touch. Do you feel the resource state return? If not, repeat the process until the stimulus-response connection is established.
BEFORE EVERY CALL: Fire your anchor. Enter the conversation already in your peak state. This takes 5 seconds and changes everything.
EMPATHY
Empathy is the bridge between your preparation and genuine connection with your prospect. Before you dial, step out of your world and into theirs.
RESEARCH
- LinkedIn profile — recent posts, career history, shared connections
- Company news — press releases, leadership changes
- Industry pressures — what forces affect their business?
- Previous conversations — review all prior notes
PERSPECTIVE-TAKING
- What is this person likely worried about right now?
- What does success look like in their role?
- What pressures are they facing from their boss, team, customers?
- Why might they be skeptical of someone like me?
INTENTION-SETTING
- "I will listen for their outcomes first, before talking about my solution."
- "I will use their vocabulary, not mine."
- "I will match their pace and energy."
- "I am here to understand, then to help — in that order."
